<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[Deft Heart]]></title><description><![CDATA[Transformational Coaching for Physicians]]></description><link>https://www.deftheart.com/blog</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Thu, 02 Jul 2026 15:21:53 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://www.deftheart.com/blog-feed.xml" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[A Fundamental Flaw]]></title><description><![CDATA[We have left ourselves out.  We have not included ourselves in our experience.  And everything we build from this flawed consciousness is doomed to reinforce and hide this glaring error.   When I was a cardiology fellow, I took care of a 25 year-old woman in the cardiac intensive care unit. She was admitted with her third episode of an infected heart valve and she was dangerously ill from it. Without a third valve replacement, she would die. Can you imagine a more helpless scenario?...]]></description><link>https://www.deftheart.com/post/a-fundamental-flaw</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a3cf9f2ff4bcc9b64dfa2eb</guid><pubDate>Thu, 25 Jun 2026 09:54:15 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/98ad4a_2a17a1461e0646ccabde6b4f547251c9~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Tim Thayer</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Boredom, Freedom, and Play]]></title><description><![CDATA[I’m sitting on my deck reflecting on the last three hours. My wife and son were gone and I was looking at a very spacious day as I noticed vague tiredness and a quiet “oh no” in me. There was a subtle sense that today is not gonna go as I hoped it might go. I wanted to work on my website and some other aspects of Deft Heart. So I stopped. At first, it was quiet and over a minute or so it became clear that I was feeling some boredom. I felt curious. What is this “boredom”? A thought: “A not...]]></description><link>https://www.deftheart.com/post/boredom-freedom-and-play</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a3174da1e7b9307c9101268</guid><pubDate>Tue, 16 Jun 2026 16:18:07 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/98ad4a_4d66a17bdbb04c14bd80b215e86a8146~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Tim Thayer</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Intertwining Anger and Shame]]></title><description><![CDATA[Anger hits me like flooring the accelerator and brake at the same time.  Quiet meditation slams into a murky wall.  Massive deceleration.  I’ve been allowing anger for a couple years now and it still feels like I’m on two wheels at times.  My 4yr old son Manu wants me at 5:30, 30 mins before his “wake up”.  I’ve had lots of practice learning what doesn't work in this scenario.  I can't “comfort” him and leave while I’m angry.  If I resign to staying, I betray myself and the anger grows into a...]]></description><link>https://www.deftheart.com/post/intertwining-anger-and-shame</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a2f0b0d7709975a84ddb9c7</guid><pubDate>Sun, 14 Jun 2026 20:19:35 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/98ad4a_170ff1e143fb4355a38340d67648dfb6~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Tim Thayer</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Agitation and “The System”]]></title><description><![CDATA[Why is it that my son kills a bug during the day and he has agitated sleep that night?  Because that is a reflection of an aspect of reality… I’ve pointed this out to him just twice and now he can connect what action leads to an agitated mind and HE decides to stop doing that action.  It's more math than morals.  What we lack in our culture (particularly in medicine) are many people that know and live in accordance with these aspects of reality.  In fact, our cultural center-of-gravity is so...]]></description><link>https://www.deftheart.com/post/agitation-and-the-system</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a2ec3967709975a84dd9acf</guid><pubDate>Sun, 14 Jun 2026 15:11:07 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/98ad4a_36a4ccc40a70455ab551c0f3aac48e90~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Tim Thayer</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Waking up to pleasure]]></title><description><![CDATA[I was laying in bed 20 minutes ago after snoozing my first alarm, and noticing how intensely pleasant my body felt as I allowed it to drift back towards sleep. There’s something in that deep relaxation that allows the simple pleasure of feeling to come to the foreground. Many people know this moment: do I allow myself to go back to sleep or do I get up? For many years, people would describe me as “disciplined” because I found it easy to get up in the morning. I didn’t feel “disciplined”. I...]]></description><link>https://www.deftheart.com/post/waking-up-to-pleasure</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a2ebff47709975a84dd99b6</guid><pubDate>Sun, 14 Jun 2026 15:04:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/98ad4a_68b6c830c8fb4593b1364310c2bb8b75~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Tim Thayer</dc:creator></item></channel></rss>